Ukrainian wedding traditions

In pre-revolutionary Kiev’s wedding in a few months it was preceded by a “love rigmarole”, consisting of brides, matchmaking and engagements. As he wrote Ivan Nechuy-Levitsky, in Fraternal monastery in Podil allegedly agreed on an evening stroll girls of marriageable age to show themselves to potential suitors.
On the Trinity here was a “general review of brides” when between young people actively fussed matchmaker, negotiating the future of the Union. And when the young man handed a bouquet and a favorite of the girl received an invitation from her parents in the house, it is already considered a suitor.


In the villages held traditions
Pre-Revolutionary traditions have been violated: the wedding was canceled, instead of their relationship began to register in the registry office (since 1917), which often come in daily or dressy attire. The dress, which then could be called the wedding, looked like this: the most simple, straight cut with a small collar, knee-length. From the wedding he was just a color – white. Equally simple was the ceremony and registration: just had to pay a stamp fee of 20 rubles, the state of the voluntary marriage and sign the registration book. But with regard to urban weddings in the big cities. In the villages and the village tried to continue to adhere to traditions: the festivities would last for a week, and the bride was in a wedding dress with mandatory national attributes. On the found photographs of those years we have seen a couple of Brusilov in Zhytomyr. For the bride – a wreath, while the groom wore a military tunic embroidered.

1930: antiglamur BOOTS AND A GIFT

About the wedding reminds only a white handkerchief instead of a veil. From the family archive A. Panchenko
Not until the wedding celebrations were in those years – Famine reshapes all human plans. They celebrated modestly, without delicacies – if at all noticed. Gifts young bear most practical. For example, you could give the boots, a piece of fabric, skin of a sheep. “Mom and Dad got married in 1935, noting it in his village, and a few days later went to Kiev to be photographed – says from Kiev Irina Panchenko – along time special was not:. The photograph shows that the mother in the ordinary dress top coat, and my father in a railway uniform, similar to the military. ” While in Europe and America bride and groom sported incredible costumes: in evening dress, in a free cut dresses, hats and long gloves. In Ukraine, while a similar and even did not hear.
1940: main dish – salad
Form – the usual attire of the groom. From the family archive A. Korchinskiy
If we describe the then wedding in one word, “minimalism” is best suited. Wedding dresses were not put food on the table a very simple, gave gifts, too rare. From Kiev Hope Veldyaskina recalls its front wedding, 1944 as follows: “Instead of a white dress with a veil on I was blue in the yard was an early spring, but the soldiers managed to give me a whole bunch of wild flowers specially for my husband arranged a dinner in the officers’ mess,… but a simple soldier’s meal – soup yes porridge “. After the war, too, it was not up to the feasts. “My parents celebrated the wedding with another pair of newlyweds in 1948 and one of the grooms even socks were not, and he came in wearing sandals, -. Natalia Voznyuk -.. Celebrated parents Mom Although some there celebrating, if the main festive dish was a salad ? And then my father came into the new family with a dowry – a pillow. ”
On a modest wedding, his parents said, and from Kiev Alexander Korchinskiy: “Parents in 1949 married gathered in a communal Of the guests were three neighbors and the mother’s parents, as his father was orphaned on the table put the potatoes, herring, sausage One neighbor brought in…. as a gift a bottle of house wine, the other started the gramophone needle benefit was for him, too, brought from the front, which cost crazy money. So noted by the German lyrical songs. ”
1950: Start GIVE MONEY

Ukrainian brides outfit rescued. From the family archive A. Panchenko
At this time still had difficulties with festive attire. “My future husband suit borrowed familiar ring bought only to me, – says Irina from Kiev Panchenko – The table was simple:.. Pickled vegetables, soup, herring, and of pig slaughtered in the village.” “The time was still heavy – recalls the wedding of his grandmother Svetlana Eresova -. I was lucky that my grandfather gave a good ration of the work, who put on the table.”

Notes in a circle of close friends and comrades. From the family archive S. Eresovoy
But, in contrast to the 40’s, the guests have already started to come with gifts. “We have money mainly donated, much as they could: at least a handful of little things – says Irina Panchenko – As a result of the wedding have presented us 300 rubles on them my husband and I were able to take off for a couple of months in advance a small apartment in Kiev, buy bed linen and.. little dishes. ”
In the villages walked more festive, managing to collect all his “corner”, as in the old days. A person who has played the accordion post-war songs, dances staged on the first day and the second could sit with close relatives.
1960: open a salon Suite

Fashionable dress – knee-length. From the family archive A. Panchenko
Weddings have become more diverse: a tradition to walk back a few days (usually the first day of a big company, with friends and colleagues or classmates, and the second – with close relatives).

Every nation has the DNA – a unique code, which is hidden in the most simple and seemingly understandable national traits

Our compatriots are now proud to emphasize their belonging to the Ukrainian nation. However, the questions: “What does it mean to be Ukrainian?” and “What is to be a nation?” – Be able to respond not everyone. A nation – a society of people who are united by a single destiny take on the character. Every nation has the DNA – a unique code, which is hidden in the most simple and seemingly understandable: amulets, fairy tales, songs. In previous publications of the special project “The secret of the nation”, we wrote about the code sewn into motanki, lullabies, pysanky, Cossack martial art. At this time, the “Today” with the ethnographers, art historians reveals the customs and rituals of Ukrainian weddings.
“Ukrainians have always cared about their future, especially procreation and strong family, – says ethnographer Galina Oleinik, Senior Researcher of the Kiev Museum of Ivan Honchar -. It has always been that the marriage will be happy if the newlyweds and their families will perform a series of rituals bequeathed ancestors. so certain rituals laid down by action, songs, incantations, dances and formed the basis of the Ukrainian folk wedding. it was believed that if the newlyweds was not ritual act, and then the wedding itself could not be just.
Today, to the choice of wedding date the couple are much easier than before. Also, many now break the old rule and marry in the post, and in fact before this was simply unacceptable. In the old days, wedding ceremonies were complex, and in each region, they have their own characteristics. For the wedding of the family is always prepared in advance, from courtship to wedding was to take place at least 2-3 weeks.
Ukrainians have always sought not only to have fun and celebrate the rich, but also facilitate the process of adapting the girl in a new family, programmed happy future together young, unite rural community. ”
“Fall has always been at times of weddings for the Slavs, – says ethnographer Galina Oleinik -. In general, there is a certain all-Ukrainian” scenario “holiday prenuptial stage included courtship, when the bridegroom did your girlfriend with her parents to participate in courtship groom could either himself,.. or sending a matchmaker to the parents of the chosen one in some regions of the suit looked like a bride:. the groom’s parents could see the future bride and assess its strengths and weaknesses a week after the matchmaking groom with parents and elders went to the bride’s house to discuss economic issues It was called dogovorinami.. . The most interesting topic for discussion was the dowry. in the early twentieth century, spoke about what the beast will father with her daughter and how “open” the earth, and in Soviet times, the dowry had money or household objects. Next followed the engagement, Domowina, invited guests.
Wedding stage included a bachelorette party, baking and decorating loaf “Gilzem” ( “Wiltz”) – ceremonial tree. Usually it was a branch of which is inserted into a loaf, and each of its sprout decorated with flowers, ears of corn, berries, colored threads, ribbons and paper flowers. “Gilzem” symbolizes the World Tree – sacral vertical connecting heaven and earth, the world of the gods to the human world. Depending on the region, “Gilzem” made from different trees, because the name it bore different: Chvojka, tree, tree just … This tradition was characteristic of central Ukraine and Hutsul – the west country, and can now be seen on the gates of dried twigs of firs . “Giltsevye” tradition, depending on the village or the village, too, are different. For example, in some areas young chopped two branches – one at the gate, a second house. In others it was decided to cut a twig brother of the bride, and all bought in the third wedding tree.
Also in the central and western parts of the country it has been popular ritual when zasvatannaya girl “picking his furnace” (puts his hand in the cooled ashes), thereby asking the houses permission to marry. If something pricked her finger, which meant that the groom should be abandoned. The researchers see this as their symbolism: a nail girl fell not just ash and particle parental home warmth, maternal love, which she will take with him to the house of the groom.
The traditional wedding culture in all regions vital role always played a bread and towels.

It was believed that the suit without bread – do not suit. For central Ukraine was a special ritual bread exchange: it is important that the parents of the bride matchmakers Communion their pastries. If the owners of the house did not want to share the bread, which meant that they did not accept the offer to marry. The same meaning was and the imposition of the girl or her parents pumpkin.
The main decoration of any wedding table was always a loaf that was baked on a Thursday or Friday. For this name karavayschits – married women, happy family life. In central Ukraine, usually on the bottom of the towel embroidered wedding tree: the roots were a symbol of the ancestors, the trunk – the family, and flowers – the young. The background was always white – it symbolized emptiness: young, becoming in the towel, it should fill their lives.

In some regions of Western Ukraine girl before giving consent to the marriage, the bride asked: “Will you let me go “ponedelnichat”?”. Thus the girl ask for “time off”

A mandatory attribute of the newlyweds in the registry office was a bowl with a candle

Wedding cup was considered a talisman family. From the family archive T. Voznyuk
In the 70s came to replace the short dresses in floor length. But they were still without too much jewelry and lace. Often they are sewn to order. At the same time there was a tradition in the city honeymoon trip, with the obligatory laying flowers to the Lenin monument, the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier. “A mandatory attribute of the newlyweds in the registry office was a bowl with a candle, which burned from the eternal flame burning in the registry office, – remembers from Kiev Tatiana Voznyuk -. Bowl is we kept during registration candle I still have as a guardian of our family.”. To encourage young people to get married, the company began to pay for the wedding. So there were “Komsomol wedding.” “We plant is fully paid for cafes, also gave television – says Irina from Lvov Suvilova.
1980: A feast is for 100 persons and Prohibition

For photos from the “rook” queues. From the family archive A. Panchenko
Weddings are becoming ever more widespread and grow into new traditions. In addition to the usual loaves and towels, dolls on machines obsypaniya young (first grain, and later coins and sweets), there was a fashion to be photographed at the “boat” – the monument to the founders of Kiev. Sometimes the queues to it! Dresses are still preferred to sew, more lush, and in restaurants for celebrations sometimes invited 80-100 people every year. “We already had live music and toastmaster, – says Kievan Alexander Panchenko -. Again started to give money, my wife and then they even went on a honeymoon trip to Leningrad, then it already was fashionable.”
But more often gave dishes, well, the most chic gift was then carpet. With the adoption of Prohibition (1985-1987 gg.), The wedding “sang and danced”, people went to all sorts of tricks. “We walked once at a wedding where vodka” disguised “in vases” – smiles from Kiev Piotr Tokarczuk.
1990: first away CEREMONY

Fleece on the bride’s head – a sign of the ’90s
In the early 90’s wedding we have to walk on all the traditions of the 80’s. “Still working and honeymooners salons where coupons can be bought imported shoes and clothes,” – says a resident of Shostka Svetlana Jura. By the way, visiting the ceremony began to conduct it in the 90s. “In 1994, my husband brought from Israel scenario of this ceremony, and we had a registry office on the basis of the Dnieper,” – says Eugene Goldberg, director of the agency’s wedding “5 stars”.
But in the late 90’s the majority of Ukrainians was not up to the ceremonies. “I’m getting married in a short red dress, the groom was dressed in jeans, wedding walked home,” – says Olga Dyakov from Lviv. In the 90s style disco prevailed, but because the bride make-up looked like war paint Indians, but an essential element of fashionable hairstyles was to comb “cap” bangs.
2000s: the crowning becomes fashionable

Did not want to stand in queues at the registry office

European exit ceremonies is gaining momentum. From the family archive E. Knyagnitskoy
More departures active workers to the territory of the registrar’s office suite already began in the 2000s. “Our main argument was – did not want to stand in queues at the registry office, make a fuss, to feel part of the pipeline – says Ekaterina Knyagnitskaya -. However, at that point in Kiev all trips were only on the Central Rags, no matter what you may apply. and the organizers skillfully used it, imposing their photographer and videographer. ” Become popular and trips out of town for a picnic, usually on the second day, while in the first celebrate with close friends and relatives.
It is becoming fashionable wedding ceremony: Many newlyweds were married only because so do their friends. In a fashion also includes emission of doves near Rags and fireworks after the feast. He has already been carried out is rarely at home. More often – in mediocre restaurants. As for fashion, in the early 2000s, there were red and blue wedding dresses. But they were soon pushed the classic white and beige.

Wedding-style “steampunk”: bright and unusual. Photo: A. Handin
Today, more and more often prefer not to classical wedding (white dress, limousine, Tamada), as thematic, when a topic is chosen for the wedding. For example, Alexander Logvinenko from Dnepropetrovsk for your wedding theme chosen Hawaii. “Guys come in white shirts, colored shorts and a colored tie, the girl -. In bright skirts and tops for girls was also a flower in her hair,” – says Alexander.

According to ancient custom, the young blacksmith shackle. From the family archive E. Krivoruchenko
Gaining momentum celebration of weddings according to ancient traditions. “My husband – a hereditary blacksmith, both of us with him interested in history, and once read that in the old blacksmith could be replaced in the villages of the priest – tells his story Ekaterina Krivoruchenko of Feodosia -. As a result, we have it, and played independently tailoring outfits period of IX-XII centuries of homespun cloth. the very famous ritual conducted in the Ukraine a master blacksmith. it’s the “chained” our special wide bracelets, as was customary in the old days. “

Wayne Rooney and Colin MakLalin

Wedding star football player, “Manchester United” Wayne Rooney and TV presenter Colin MakLalin held on June 12, 2008 in Portofino, Italy. Wedding ceremony itself was held in the castle of the 16th century overlooking the Italian Riviera. The wedding took place on a yacht worth 120 million dollars and lasted four days. Guests were taken by private aircraft and yacht located on the road or in the nearby five-star hotels. The wedding cost $ 7, 7 million. Dollars.

Amit Bshati and Vanisha Mittal

The wedding ceremony children tycoons of Indian origin and Amit Bshati Vanish Mittal took place in summer 2004. Vanisha Mittal – the only daughter of Indian steel magnate Lakshmi Mittal. The ceremony was the oriental luxury: Vanisha Mittal and Indian banker Amit Bshata were engaged in Versailles. The ceremony of marriage took place in an old castle “Parc Saint-Cloud” near Paris, and the remaining five days of the guests were walking in the park specially rented the Tuileries at the Louvre and in the park of Saint-Cloud, which was specially built castle. On champagne visitors spent US $ 1.5 million., And five days of celebrating one thousand invited guests drank 5000 bottles of “Mouton Rothschild”. During the celebration was filed more than 6,000 meals and snacks for three hundred guests, vegetarians were delivered daily by air from India. Guests were invited to a silver book of 20 pages. Newlyweds singing Kylie Minogue, specially invited to France from Australia. In addition, each lady to attend the ceremony, on behalf of the newlyweds received a gift bag with a lux-jewels. The wedding cost $ 58 million. Dollars.


Simantov Roy and Chandini, Sushant Roy and Richa

Two wedding sons tycoon Simantov and Sushant February 14, 2004 in the Indian city of Lucknow. Darling eldest son Sushant was Rich and junior Simantov – Chandini. 10,000 visitors had the opportunity to try the celebration of 110 world cuisine, and enjoy a game of the London Symphony Orchestra, who performed Indian patriotic songs and soundtracks of the most famous Bollywood films. In honor of more than forty thousand poor across the country were able to enjoy delicacies by millionaire. Double wedding cost $ 123 million. Dollars.